Sep 182015
 

Peacemakers part 2 Last week we looked at the importance of peace and especially those who promote it, the peacemakers. We saw that as the ‘prince of peace’ Jesus is the one who leads us and inspires us to imitate our heavenly father and promote peace.

We saw that having peace is not something that just happens to us, but something we really have to work at.

This week we are going to look at an aspect of peacemaking and that is conflict resolution. Conflict happens around us every day, it is part of life. If we are serious about following Jesus though we need to do our best to resolve the conflicts we are involved in. It is not always possible to mend other people’s conflicts, but we should at least make an effort to resolve the ones we are in.

In the process of preparing this subject, I discovered some excellent principles about resolving conflicts from American pastor, Rick Warren. Here are 7 steps to resolving conflict:

1. Make the first move

Swallow your pride and take the initiative. We are called to be peacemakers, not peacekeepers. Peacekeepers don’t really resolve issues, they just maintain a ‘stand-off’. Don’t put it off, or it will never happen. As a famous phrase goes ‘do it now’.

So if you are presenting a sacrifice at the altar in the Temple and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God. (Matthew 5:23-24) (NLT)

Conflict never resolves itself. The only way to resolve a conflict is to face it. The first man, Adam, didn’t get off to a great start.

And he said, “I heard the sound of you in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked, and I hid myself.” (Genesis 3:10)

If you want to be a peacemaker, hiding is not an option .

The following 3 D’s are definitely detrimental to resolving conflicts; being defensive, distant and demanding.

for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. (2 Timothy 1:7)

2. Ask God for wisdom

If you want to know what God wants you to do, ask him, and he will gladly tell you, for he is always ready to give a bountiful supply of wisdom to all who ask him; he will not resent it. (James 1:5) (living bible)

3. Begin with what’s my fault

It’s very rare that we are completely blameless. If you took an honest assessment of yourself, you would discover, however small, where you have contributed to the conflict.

What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? (James 4:1)

As we saw last week, it’s important we are at peace with God and ourselves before we can be at peace with others. When I’m at peace inside, what’s outside doesn’t upset me.

Pride only leads to arguments, but those who take advice are wise. (Proverbs 13:10) (New Century Version)

Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. (Matthew 7:3,5)

We all have blindspots.

4. Be aware of their hurt and perspective

This is a very true phrase (Think about it) “Hurt people, hurt people”

Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; (James1:19)

We have two ears and one mouth and we should use them in proportion. It’s so important to listen

Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus (Philippians 2:4-5)

You are most like Jesus when you are focussing on others’ perspectives.

Even if we believe that it makes no difference to the Lord whether we do these things, still we cannot just go ahead and do them to please ourselves; for we must bear the “burden” of being considerate of the doubts and fears of others—of those who feel these things are wrong. Let’s please the other fellow, not ourselves, and do what is for his good and thus build him up in the Lord. (Romans 15:2) (Living bible)

5. Speak the truth tactfully

It’s important to tell the truth, but it takes skill to do it tactfully so that you don’t hurt the other person. Say it with kindness.

Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ (Ephesians 4:15)

The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. (Proverbs 12:18) (NIV)

Do not use harmful words, but only helpful words, the kind that build up and provide what is needed, so that what you say will do good to those who hear you. (Ephesians 4:29) (TEV)

6. Fix the problem, not the blame

Arguments can get very personal, very quickly. Attack the issue, not each other.

But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth. (Colossians 3:8)

7. Focus on reconciliation not resolution

This means re-establishing the relationship, which is the most important thing.

God has done all this. He has restored our relationship with him through Christ, and has given us this ministry of restoring relationships. In other words, God was using Christ to restore his relationship with humanity. He didn’t hold people’s faults against them, and he has given us this message of restored relationships to tell others. Therefore, we are Christ’s representatives, and through us God is calling you. We beg you on behalf of Christ to become reunited with God. (2 Corinthians 5:18-20) (God’s word)

You may have some other ideas. Why not share your thoughts in the comments section below, I would love to hear from you.

 September 18, 2015  Posted by at 12:00 pm Beatitudes, Peace, The beatitudes, The sermon on the mount No Responses »
Sep 112015
 

PeacemakersBlessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.(Matthew 5:9)

Just about everybody would like a peaceful life, but very few would actually do what was required to get it. A peaceful life is pretty easy for a hermit living on his own in a cave, but as soon as you add another person, the odds for conflict rise exponentially. Peace doesn’t come naturally to any of us because we are all basically selfish, but it is an absolute necessity if we want to become children of God.

Children of God are different to regular children. If you’ve ever grown up with a brother or a sister you’ll know that a peaceful life is not the default. It’s sin that causes conflict to occur and a deep desire to get our own way. But when we become children of God, our lives are submitted to Him, our commitment is to please Him. When we give our life to God we start on the lifetime pathway of peace.

Come to me, all who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. (Matthew 11:28-30)

There are loads more references to peace in the bible, but I want to pick out a few today for us to consider how important this subject is to God.

Firstly it is one of the names given to Jesus himself. Last year I wrote a series of blogs on the names of Jesus and one of His names was ‘prince of peace’ taken from Isaiah 9:6 For to us a child is born, to us a son is given; and the government shall be upon his shoulder, and his name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.

As the prince of peace, Jesus has brought us peace in a number of areas;

1. We have peace with God

Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. (Romans 5:1)

This is the most important peace as it restores our relationship with our loving heavenly father. Until this relationship is restored our lives are in turmoil because we were created to have a relationship with God, but our sin was separating us. When Jesus dealt with our sin the relationship was restored and we can now experience true peace.

2. We have peace in ourselves

Knowing you are right with God gives you an inner calm and tranquillity. When our relationship with God is right, all is as it should be.

And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts (Colossians 3:15)

3. We have peace with others

Finally, brothers, rejoice. Aim for restoration, comfort one another, agree with one another, live in peace; and the God of love and peace will be with you. (2 Corinthians 13:11)

We can never really have peace with others until we first have peace with God and that inner peace within ourselves that helps us then to reach out to others.

Not having that peace with others can cause all sorts of problems in our lives. 3 blockages that can result are;

(1) It blocks my fellowship with God

You can’t be right with God and off with other people

Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.(1 John 4:20)

(2) It blocks my prayers from being answered

This passage relates to marriage, but the principle is the same

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.(1 Peter 3:7)

(3) It blocks my happiness

Remember, the other name for blessed is happy. The peace we sow into others will be returned to us and cause us to be happy too.

And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness. (James 3:18) (NLT)

There is so much more to say about this subject, that I will continue it next week when we will look at some principles for resolving conflict, but for now I will leave you with a great biblical blessing from Numbers 6:25-26

The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; the Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace.

 September 11, 2015  Posted by at 12:00 pm Beatitudes, Peace, The beatitudes, The sermon on the mount 2 Responses »
Oct 282013
 

Peaceful shoesI hope you are enjoying my series on ‘The Armour of God’. I am enjoying writing it and feel that God is speaking to me through it (hopefully to you too!).

If you have missed the previous posts you can find them on the left hand side of this web page.

This week we shall look at the part of the passage “….and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace.” (Ephesians 6:15).

I used to think this was solely about being ready to walk into situations and preach the gospel, but having thought about it a bit more I have come to the conclusion that there is more to it than that.

As I have said before, as Paul wrote this he would have probably been looking at the shoes of the soldiers he was chained to. Roman soldier’s shoes were not necessarily built for speed, but rather to be able to stand firm in the heat of battle. You will notice in the passage immediately before this, Paul mentions to ‘stand firm’ 4 times. In battle, Roman soldiers would stand side by side with their shields locked together. They would dig in and withstand every enemy onslaught and then push forward together as one unit. They would not give way.

The gospel of peace is a ‘firm foundation’ in our lives. We are called to a life of peace:

Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace”. (Colossians 3:15).

It’s wonderful to think that we carry the peace of God with us wherever we go. Jesus said:

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” (John 14:27).

The world is an anxious place and is lacking much peace. There is worry, concern, anguish and anxiety everywhere we turn. As those who have received God’s peace, we should carry it everywhere we go, ministering it to others.

As we know, this whole battle we are in is not physical but spiritual. We fight with weapons of peace, weapons that bring calmness in times of turmoil. This is the total opposite of physical fighting. We vanquish the enemy by bringing the peace of God into every situation we find ourselves in.

Are you standing firm in the peace that God has given you?

Did you know that.. “since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ,” (Romans 5:1)? Let the peace of God reign in your life, as you read God’s word and spend time enjoying His presence. As you do, people will start to ask you “what is this peace that you have?” You can then share the wonderful news about the ‘Prince of peace’.

 October 28, 2013  Posted by at 8:37 pm Armour of God No Responses »