As I was considering this subject and thinking about what “faithfulness” looks like and the qualities required, dogs immediately came to my mind. Most people who know me, know that I don’t particularly like dogs. I’m not keen on the barking, the jumping up, the licking and the general smell of them. But the one thing I do admire about them is their unswerving faithfulness. Maybe it was the Lassie films I used to watch as a child (for those of you too young to remember, Lassie was a Collie dog who got into all sorts of adventures, for example rescuing children or finding his way back home after a long journey). That dog was faithful and I have read of many more (another that comes to mind is a dog in Argentina, who after his owner died sat by the graveside for 6 years!). http://www.dogheirs.com/larne/posts/1880-faithful-dog-refuses-to-leave-his-owner-s-graveside-for-six-years
In humans, “faithfulness” has always been a rare quality. In Psalm 12:1 David exclaims in exasperation:
“Help, LORD, for no one is faithful anymore; those who are loyal have vanished from the human race.”
And again from his son, Solomon:
“Many a man proclaims his own steadfast love, but a faithful man who can find?” (Proverbs 20:6)
And the apostle Paul voiced his frustrations to the church in Philippi in Philippians 2:19-22.
I am sure that even in your church there have been people who have let you down. Nowadays it would seem that most people have forgotten the meaning of the word “commitment”. It’s a quality that nearly everybody likes and admires in others, but when it comes to working to produce this fruit in ourselves, well, that’s another matter.
Something that happens to me regularly is a lack of response (one way or another) to emails I send containing specific requests (despite receiving “read receipts). Another one Liz and I have found frustrating is a lack of response to party invitations we have sent out for our children’s birthdays over the years. I notice more and more that it’s a quality which is becoming increasingly rare in our society.
Faithfulness goes against the very essence of the ‘me’ culture. It seems that the overriding attitude in people’s minds is to consider themselves first over and above considering others, or even not considering others at all. This lack of faithfulness is probably most clearly seen in marriages where couples bail out as soon as the relationship doesn’t suit them anymore. Sadly, dogs have put us to shame.
It will not surprise you to hear that, as with all the fruit of the Spirit, faithfulness comes from the very character of God Himself. As you can imagine, there are dozens of verses in the bible which speak of God’s faithfulness. Here are just a few:
“Know therefore that the Lord your God is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and steadfast love with those who love him and keep his commandments, to a thousand generations”. (Deuteronomy 7:9)
“But you, O Lord, are a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness”. (Psalm 86:15)
“Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for he who promised is faithful”. (Hebrews 10:23)
God proves His faithfulness over and over again throughout every page of the bible and also in our lives. By His Spirit He is now making us faithful and the more time we spend with Him, the more we will be like Him. Jesus embodied this faithfulness by coming to earth, living as a man and going all the way to the cross. Now that is faithfulness!
In the parable of the talents in Matthew 25:14-30 we see the kind of faithfulness that God is looking for. One of the key verses in this passage is verse 23 where the master commends one of the faithful servants. He says “‘Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much. Enter into the joy of your master.’” Notice that the master was not looking for success, just faithfulness. This is the same as God; He wants you to be faithful with what you have, no matter how small. Remember how Jesus commended the woman who put two small coins into the offering? That was all she had! It wasn’t about the money; it never is. God doesn’t need our money, He is constantly looking for faithfulness. That dear old lady in Calcutta, Mother Teresa, said simply “God does not require that we be successful, only that we be faithful”.
There is so much to say on this subject but I will just touch on a few thoughts that have occurred to me:
It is actually quite useful to search for words that are similar in meaning to faithfulness, in order to give us a broader idea about this fruit. Think about words such as; fidelity, loyalty, constancy, devotion, reliable, dedication, commitment, allegiance, dependability, trustworthiness. Sounds great doesn’t it? But as I said before, the Godly way to think about faithfulness is not to look for it in other people, but to be faithful ourselves first. Our faithfulness should never depend on anybody else. God is faithful unconditionally: “If we are faithless, he remains faithful— for he cannot deny himself.” (2 Timothy 2:13)
The sermon on the mount shows us that faithfulness is more than just outward appearance and nodding agreement; it is a heart attitude. For instance, the bible says not to commit adultery, but Jesus defines that as not even looking at a woman lustfully. Faithfulness in marriage is far far more than just not sleeping with other people; it’s about serving and preferring your spouse, no matter how they respond. Faithfulness is a quality that keeps going no matter how it is treated. Our marriage partner should be the person we treat best out of everyone. (I have witnessed some people treat strangers much better than they treat their partner. Treat strangers well, but treat your partner better!)
Here are just a few suggestions to help us seek God in order to increase this fruit in our lives. (We must not forget that it’s not through our own efforts or willpower; these things come by The Holy Spirit as we spend time with Him. However, we still have to play our part). So, how faithful are we being in the following:
- Studying God’s word
- Using your talents
- Serving others
- Dealing with sin
Let me finish with a sobering question for you to ponder this week: if everyone in your church was as faithful as you, what would your church look like?